Mr. Stout
I’m the living proof. Now… let’s not all get too excited just yet. It wasn’t all canes, hairbrushes and belts. It definitely took some time.
Ok, I admit. I’m a butt man. Big butts and thighs. Curves are my thing. So what does this have to do with spanking? Well, a lot, for me. As a butt man I like to see them jiggle and wiggle. There’s something about that movement.
I dabbled a bit with spanking back in the day with some ex-girlfriends. A tap here and there, nothing too exciting. More as a joke — but I now realise it perhaps meant more than that. When I met Mrs. Stout, we were friends before we were lovers, and maybe that helped with the openness. When she showed me what she liked, I wasn’t turned off by it. Quite the contrary. There is something very sexy about a woman who knows what she wants.
As the years went by I enjoyed it more and more. It was hot, and I could see how much it turned her on. But was I any good at it? I was learning. Fast forward ten years and I now have a PhD in OTK. Like anything else, as you build confidence and your partner praises you, you get better at it. As you get better, you enjoy it more. And as you see the pleasure it brings your partner, it all comes together.
The spankings now mean more to me than ever. It’s a special moment between us. It’s special because it brings us close. There is trust, there is love, there is passion, and most importantly there is all that communication between us that joins us tightly.
What I am saying is that it’s all about communication. Communicate your thoughts — your dirty ones. Give each other time to digest them. Talk openly about it. Maybe it’s your thing, maybe not. But at least be open to listening to your partner.
Mr. Stout
Mrs. Stout
Absolutely. How do I know? I did it.
What was probably the perfect prerequisite for Mr. Stout’s conversion is that he is a butt lover. Converting him didn’t happen overnight, though. It was a process of many years until he was as into spanking as I am. Being a true gentleman, spanking a woman was against his upbringing, and it took a while to rewire his brain.
Back then the spankings weren’t long enough, or strong enough, and didn’t happen often enough — but I wasn’t pushy about it. Asking for a spanking just isn’t the same as being told you’ll get one.
Sharing videos, GIFs and fantasies helped, and so did giving feedback during or after. But what changed things from good to amazing was letting him read my books.
Mr. Stout is always the first to read my books and my favourite person to discuss new story ideas with. Knowing my fantasies in detail made him act on them a lot more often. And it is so good.
If you’re a man who wants to spank a woman, I think it’s even easier. Start with a sensual butt massage. Get that backside excited about any kind of touch and move yourself up slowly and gently. This is not the time to take out paddles or canes. Hand, hand and more hand. Mix the spanks with plenty of touch to warm up her bottom and her heart to the wonderful world of spanking.
And always keep in mind:
- Gentlemen, it is entirely fine to spank a woman when it’s consensual.
- Communication is lubrication.
- Give it time.
- Until your non-spanko partner is fully converted, your fantasy is your best friend.
Mrs. Stout